If you’re worried this post is going to be all about why you’re a clutterer or a hoarder, and what things in your past have led you to this point…you can stop worrying! (And if you were hoping that’s what it would be about then you might be disappointed.)
Let’s play ‘what if’ for a minute here:
What if your clutter wasn’t a problem? What if it was still there, but it wasn’t bothering anyone? What would you do? Most people who are overwhelmed with clutter don’t want to tackle it. So, what if you didn’t have to tackle it? What would you do next?
What would you think about if you weren’t always thinking about your clutter?
What would be on your ‘To Do’ list if there was no decluttering, sorting, or organizing to do?
What would your relationships be like if clutter wasn’t stuck in there like a constant, annoying third wheel?
If you just breezed over those questions, take a few minutes to go back and really think about your answers. It may be really hard at first, especially if you’re used to having a life that’s full of clutter. Maybe you even want to walk away from this post for a while to think. That’s OK.
See, if clutter isn’t stopping you from having the life you want, then clutter isn’t a problem. But if it is stopping you from having the life you want then it is a problem. What do you want in your life that clutter stops you from having? Imagine that you’re standing in front of a mountain of clutter, and on the other side of that mountain is a good life. What does that good life look like?
What’s behind your clutter? If the clutter was not there, what could you have in your life?
Is it a relationship where you’re not always arguing about clutter? Is it a move to a new place? An adventure? A job? Being able to invite friends over? Having friends? What’s behind your clutter?
It’s easy to get totally absorbed in thinking about clutter. How it got there. Why it got there. How to deal with it. Trying to ignore it. Getting harassed about it.
Give your brain a break from all that and think about what’s on the other side of your clutter. Identify the thing you want the most from the other side of your clutter and keep that thought with you.
Your life does not have to be full of clutter forever. Give yourself permission to think about what you will enjoy after the clutter is gone.
We can work together to let go of the clutter. I’ll keep giving you strategies for working with your thoughts, then your words, and then your actions as they relate to your clutter. Please subscribe so you don’t miss a post. And keep your eyes open for other resources that will help too. There isn’t only one way to solve this, but you CAN do it!